After months of planning and organizing, along with plenty of tantrums and tears, your wedding day has finally arrived. But how do you make sure the spark of the day isn’t lost when you and your new partner are finally alone?

Should you invest in sex toys?

Who needs something cheesy like flowers, which inevitably wilt, or chocolate, which helps to pile on the pounds, when a sex toy is a cheeky gift that can bring literally hours of pleasure? Many couples with a healthy and vibrant sex life incorporate the use of toys into their intimate pleasure. There are, however, some things to bear in mind.

If you know, or suspect, that your partner might be a bit shy about the idea of using a toy, don’t surprise them completely unaware; sound them out a little first and make sure that they are onboard with the idea. Also, maybe don’t present the gift in front of an assembly of family members. There’s obviously nothing to be embarrassed about when it comes to using sex toys, but that might be hard to remember when Great Aunt Mabel is examining the gift with prurient interest.

Tips to heat up your wedding night

While some people may be feeling the pressure when it comes to their wedding night. Introducing a new sex toy on the night can be a fun way of making the occasion really special. However, it is important to put some thought into what sort of toy will work for you.

It is important to bear in mind that women frequently dislike the idea of sex being something that is “done to” them. Women generally prefer to know that they are equal partners in bed, as well as out. This means that it’s important to choose a sex toy that gives a lot of pleasure to the woman.

Attractive options include the Chaiamo vibrator by SecretCherry, which makes it easier for her to reach orgasm using pleasure air technology—hopefully more than once, too! Other exciting possibilities include items from like 4play Couples Mini Vibe Kit, which offer pleasure to both the man and the woman at the same time.

As a species, we have evolved to be uniquely sexual. In most mammal species, females are only interested in sex when they are ovulating, while males are often uninterested unless they encounter an ovulating female. Human beings, instead, can be interested in sex at any time and at any age. Our creative minds have also made it possible for us to harness technology so that we can enjoy sex in a wide range of novel ways, too – so why not take advantage of it?

Here are some ideas that might make your wedding night even more exciting:

Try out a little role play

Assign roles to one another and arrange to meet at a bar or hotel. Stay in character as you “get to know” one another, get seductive, and finally end up between the sheets together. If you have a fantasy that you’ve kept to yourself, this might be the time to share it. Maybe your partner can make it come true this Valentine’s Day.

Set the tone with texts

Get in the mood by sending each other sexy texts throughout the day. Leave a little to the imagination; some carefully thought-out word play can be a lot more stimulating than boring old nude photos (which are definitely not suitable for work, in any case).

Amp up the romance

Surprise your loved one with some old-fashion corniness that will make them laugh and blush at the same time. Think of a trail of rose petals to guide them to the bedroom, or – if you’re feeling particularly flush – hiring a string quartet to play romantic music. Or make them giggle by buying a sex toy and presenting it as part of a bouquet of flowers.